“Good things happen to good people.” We’ve all heard it before. It sounds harmless, even inspiring. But when it sinks into our unconscious belief system, it can create some sneaky expectations that might do more harm than good.

At first glance, it suggests a kind of fairness to life—if we’re kind, honest, and selfless, good things will naturally come our way. But life isn’t a tidy transaction. It’s messy, unpredictable, and full of variables. This belief can make us feel like we’ve failed or done something wrong when challenges arise. Let’s unpack why this idea can get tricky.

The Messiness of Life

Sometimes, we attract unpleasant situations because of the energy we’re putting out—our vibration. That’s not to say it’s our fault, but it does mean our inner state can influence our external experiences. Other times, we’re so focused on being “good” for everyone else that we neglect our own needs, which eventually catches up with us.

And let’s not forget external factors: random events, other people’s actions, or even natural disasters. Sometimes, things happen with no rhyme or reason, and trying to make sense of it all can leave us feeling frustrated and defeated.

The Role of the Universe, God, or Guides

Here’s the truth as I see it: the Universe, God, our guides—they’re not sitting on a throne, doling out punishments or rewards. They don’t owe us anything, nor do they punish us for missteps. What they do is walk alongside us, offering support during the hard times and celebrating with us in the good ones. They might nudge us with a bit of guidance here and there, but ultimately, they can’t interfere too much.

It’s our journey, and they’re just here to help us navigate it.

So, Why Be Good?

If we’re not guaranteed rewards for being “good,” then what’s the point? The answer is simple: because it feels right. True goodness comes from a place of authenticity, not from expecting something in return. It’s about being in alignment with who we are, treating others with kindness, and, most importantly, treating ourselves with kindness too.

When we let go of the transactional mindset, we can find a deeper sense of peace. Instead of chasing results, we focus on how we want to show up in the world, knowing we’re supported by something greater, even in the messiest of times.

Final Thoughts

Life isn’t a reward system. It’s a journey of growth, connection, and self-discovery. Be good, not because you’re trying to earn cosmic brownie points, but because it feels right in your soul. The Universe isn’t keeping score—it’s walking beside you, cheering you on, and helping you through the chaos.

References:

• My own messy life lessons—because, let’s be honest, we’re all figuring it out as we go.